For a long time, I was so angry. I thought that I had dealt with my trauma correctly by discussing, forgiving, and healing it. But I kept having outbursts; I kept getting triggered. I was allowing others to take my power. I couldn't stop. I got angry, had expectations that didn't get met, cried, forgave, and started again. This was until I knew I had to break this cycle. But how? I had to get to the root of the problem. I was hurting, and I was so sad. I just wanted to be heard, held, and respected. But it was coming out as anger. I need to give those things to me. I needed to practice forgiveness and healing, not just say it. But I first need to give those things to me. Remember, your anger is not about the topics you argue about, but rather about the deep issues.Read article
Lady B Essentials
I've come to realize that I never really learned how to deal with my emotions; they were bothersome to most. They usually didn't fit with the day's agenda so that just meant they got tucked away inside; I was an emotional hoarder. In time, each emotion started rearing its ugly head. But it was usually chalked up to hormones or some trendy 'crisis.' The reality is that I didn't know how to regulate my emotions. It wasn't until I realized that adult temper tantrums & volatile relationships weren't the norm, that I realized I had a lot of work to do. I still struggle w/ my emotions. How much is too much? Am I expressing myself enough? Is this in the normal range of emotions, & what is really normal? I'll keep learning, practicing, succeeding & failing, & starting all over again. That's the beautifully messy part of the growth journey.Read article
- I love you. I don't want to be so hard on you, and talk so harshly at times. I am sorry, and I appreciate you for exactly who you are.
- I am sorry I have doubted you and minimized your feelings. I apologize for imposing others' thoughts onto you.
- You are so very special. You have so much love, life, passion, consideration, and knowledge to give to this world.
- Please know that I will love you unconditionally through it all, and in the hard times, I will listen, not just hear, I will communicate not just talk, and I will be present, not just here
I pray that we all find happiness. More than the temporary kind; more fulfilling than the impulsive kind. The real kind, in present tense. More than the hopeful futuristic version; more than the kind that originates from others. The kind of happiness that radiates throughout your face. It makes a home in your heart, warmth in your belly, and fire in your soul. Even on the bad days, it remains within you. That's the happiness I want for us all. That's the kind of happiness we all deserve.Read article